Dating and sexual violence

by  |  04-Mar-2020 11:01

Unhealthy relationships can start early and last a lifetime.Teens often think some behaviors, like teasing and name calling, are a “normal” part of a relationship.

I knew I needed a partner with an appropriate level of spiritual depth, emotional intelligence, and empathy to join me on my lifelong journey of being a survivor.

On the other hand, it was a personal story and one that I didn’t necessarily want to share in detail with someone unless I saw a future together.

It’s a completely personal decision, and you have to figure out what works for you. Sometimes I told them after a second round of drinks.

In college, one of my big motivations for sharing my story publicly at Take Back the Night was to share it with the entire universe of potential love interests all at once, so I didn’t have to tell it again and again every time I met someone new. Sometimes, the relationship fizzled out before I had a chance to share my story at all.

The 2013 national Youth Risk Behavior Survey found approximately 10% of high school students reported physical victimization and 10% reported sexual victimization from a dating partner in the 12 months* before they were surveyed. All too often these examples suggest that violence in a relationship is normal, but violence is never acceptable.

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