What to expect when dating a muslim man
Insha Allah I’ll write an follow-up here on my blog in a bit: Oh, before I go, some TRUTH for any non-Muslim or revert Muslim thinking to marry a Muslim man who is not from your culture: WAIT!!!! If you are dating or planning on marrying a Muslim man, know this: A) If he is dating you, he is committing a sin in Islam, which does not allow free-mixing between unrelated men and women. For many men from “traditional” backgrounds (Arab, Indo-Pak, African), they do NOT consider women to be confidants and close companions.If he is not doing his duty to God, there is a good chance he won’t do his duty to YOU. Go back and read that again: THEY DO NOT CONSIDER WOMEN TO BE CONFIDANTS AND CLOSE COMPANIONS. It means that he may love you to pieces, but he does not consider you to be his friend. Men and women live in different circles and they come together for sex, food, and to talk about the kids.
Here is what you infidels need to know about dating a Muslim woman or man.
There is a lot of debate as to whether Muslims are allowed to date at all.
I get a number of emails from American women asking advice about their Arab men. Some of the men are Arab but born and raised in America. And don’t ask to look through the one you DO know about… You’ll need to tell him where you’re going, with whom, and approximately how long you expect to be gone. 1-9 above still apply and perhaps seem even more frequent. You’re more than likely going to meet male cousins and maybe a brother or two.
Some of the women who write are working in Kuwait and dating a Kuwaiti. And during this time you’re expected to call him (though he’s not going to answer) and send endless text messages. Don’t ask me how, but Arab men are masters at turning things around. it’s ‘disrespectful’ and you’ll be accused of behaving like a man. If he’s not comfortable with your answers he’ll simply drive you himself.
I have mostly been posting on Facebook instead of using my blog because I have been suffering worse than usual from brain fog and stress, and it’s easier for me to slap a few sentences together rather than having to come up with actual coherent paragraphs, but some days I just have a topic in me and it pops out.