Widowers dating stages
Perhaps some of them were even a little nuts before they were widowed (we are changed by our losses... I also think that widowers with children still at home (most of the widowers I know fall in this category) are a bit more justified in hanging on to "stuff" from their past lives and sharing family (like in-laws) and memories a bit more actively.
A widow might feel anxious and blue one day, only to feel lighthearted and cheerful the next.
In other words, we don’t grieve in stages at all, but oscillate rapidly.
Until I read Abel Keogh’s Widower Wednesday, I had no idea that dating a widower was such a widespread practice* that it required its own self-help dating niche.
Silly me though because where divorced and never-married men get lumped together in the douche category when they exhibit behaviors that clearly speak to their disinterest in anything other than their own needs, widowers get a pass.
What I wish is that women would stop reading men like tea leaves and just ask for and expect to get what they need and walk away when they don’t get it. Until they realize that their antipathy is really love and then they continue to clash all the way to the altar and beyond – because that’s what love is, right? At least it shouldn’t be and if it is, one should step back and really look at what is and isn’t going on. No one wants to hear that or be the one to point it out to someone else. It’s a way to use anecdote, pop psychology and a lot of sugar to tell angsty women what they already know – that he’s just not that into you.